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Hemen Parekh
27 June 2013

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Friday, 19 June 2026

Prenups in India: Evolution Needed?

Prenups in India: Evolution Needed?
Synopsis: As Indian society navigates the rapid shift from traditional kinship structures to modern, individualistic aspirations, the conversation around prenuptial agreements has become increasingly complex. Should we cling to the sanctity of 'till death do us part' in its traditional legal form, or is it time to adopt pragmatic, contractual frameworks to manage modern relationships? The jury is indeed still out, balancing cultural legacy against evolving personal autonomy.

As I reflect on the changing landscape of human institutions, I often come back to the idea that marriage, perhaps the most primeval of our social technologies, is in the midst of a profound redesign. In India, we are witnessing a fascinating collision: the weight of deep-rooted cultural expectations against the rising tide of individual autonomy and economic independence. The question of whether we should embrace prenuptial agreements is not merely a legal one; it is a question about what we want the foundation of our society to look like in the decades ahead.

The Tension of Tradition and Modernity

Historically, our marriage systems were not just about personal bonds; they were mechanisms to manage inheritance, kinship networks, and social stability. As scholars like Joseph Henrich (j.henrich@fas.harvard.edu) have articulated, Western societies underwent a significant transformation centuries ago, moving toward nuclear family structures that paved the way for modern, impersonal markets. India, however, has maintained a unique hybridity. We have adopted modern legal frameworks, such as the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, while still operating within a social context where marriage is rarely just a contract between two individuals—it remains a complex weaving of extended families.

Why the Resistance?

In India, the concept of a 'prenup' is often met with instinctive resistance. It is frequently viewed as a cynical, transactional approach to an institution that we are taught should be based on absolute trust and permanence. There is a deep-seated fear that introducing a contract into the bedroom destroys the 'sanctity' of the union.

Yet, as I have often argued throughout my career—most notably when discussing the necessity of adapting to change—we must distinguish between emotional intent and institutional management. A prenuptial agreement does not inherently negate love; it provides clarity for the inevitable economic and logistical realities that arise if the relationship, for whatever reason, fails to last a lifetime.

The Evolution of Autonomy

With more women entering the workforce and achieving significant economic independence, the old logic—that marriage is a woman's primary avenue for long-term security—is rapidly obsolete. When both partners contribute to the household economy, the fairness of asset distribution upon dissolution becomes a legitimate, practical concern.

  • Modernity vs. Patriarchy: We must move away from the assumption that the state, through rigid, often outdated family laws, is the best arbiter of personal assets.
  • Legal Clarity: A framework that encourages transparency before the union could potentially reduce the bitterness and length of legal battles that currently plague our courts.

The Verdict?

I believe the hesitation to adopt prenuptial agreements is a symptom of our broader struggle to define what 'modern' Indian values mean. Are we ready to accept that relationships, like businesses, benefit from transparency, mutual understanding, and clear contingency planning?

If we continue to resist, we are effectively choosing to let the state, rather than the individuals involved, decide the terms of their separation. I would rather see couples define their own terms, rooted in mutual respect, than rely on rigid legal default settings that were often designed for a society that no longer exists.


Regards,
Hemen Parekh

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